If someone’s mood swing starts with an outburst, try not to react too quickly or intensely. Keeping yourself calm can help them regain control.
Quick tip 2
Reflect what you see.
Reflect what you see.
When a bad mood doesn’t go away quickly, point out what it looks like. Be matter-of-fact: “You seem frustrated and annoyed.”
Quick tip 3
Ask what’s going on.
Ask what’s going on.
Tell the person it’s OK to feel what they’re feeling. Having a safe place to talk can help people process and then let go of their emotions in a healthier way.
Quick tip 4
Share how you feel about the behavior.
Share how you feel about the behavior.
You may worry about making the person with mood swings feel guilty or ashamed. But they need to know that their behavior affects others.
Quick tip 5
Do a perspective check.
Do a perspective check.
If you’re having an ADHD mood swing, try to be kind to yourself. Remind yourself that mood swings are common in people with ADHD. Once you’re calmer, take a moment to reflect on what led to the mood swing.
People with ADHD often have trouble managing their emotions. And they tend to feel emotions more intensely than other people. The result? For some, it can mean mood swings that leave the people around them wondering what caused such a quick change in attitude and behavior.
It may not take much to set the pendulum in motion. Getting a bad grade, having to work late, even spilling a drink can instantly change a fine mood into a foul one. The anger or frustration may last the rest of the day — or disappear within 10 minutes.
When people with ADHD have mood changes, they may not see their behavior or how it’s impacting others. Afterward, they often feel bad about how they’ve been acting. They typically don’t mean to be moody or grumpy. But sometimes they may need support to build the skills to control it.
Dive deeper
Moodiness isn’t unique to people with ADHD. All people are moody at times and lose their cool now and then. But it’s very common when people struggle with impulsivity and poor self-control, which are key symptoms of ADHD.
People with ADHD also tend to feel anger, anxiety, frustration, or disappointment more intensely than others. (The same can be true of positive emotions.) They can have trouble putting the brakes on their feelings.
ADHD medication can play a role in mood swings. That’s especially true if those swings keep happening in the late afternoons or early evenings. Stimulant medications wear off around then and can sometimes cause a few hours of moodiness. If that’s the case, the dose may need some fine-tuning.
Keep an eye on mental health issues. ADHD often occurs with conditions like anxiety and depression. These can also cause mood swings and need to be treated separately from ADHD. If a bad mood lasts more than a week or two, talk to a medical or mental health professional.