School was hard for me. Now my child is struggling, and it’s bringing up a lot.

If you had a difficult time in school, seeing your child struggle in similar ways can be tough. It can bring up big feelings, and make it harder for you to help yourself — and your child. Find out why from Dr. Monica Johnson.

By The Understood Team

Updated January 26, 2024

Listen to Dr. Monica Johnson talk about how past experiences can have a big impact on our present actions and feelings. Then, try one of the activities mentioned in the video: 

  • Mindfulness can help you manage emotions and process difficult experiences from the past. Try this mindfulness activity. 

  • Find some quiet time and try writing down some of the things you remember from your own school experience. What stands out? What feelings do these bring up for you? Why?

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